In the past I have struggled to get fit lose weight – what can I say I have tried so many different methods to lose weight. Time and time again I wanted to do it and had given up sometimes after a few days sometimes after a few weeks change was so difficult – sustaining change was even harder (for me). I now realise that I need a overhaul that is my food, nutrition, fitness, metabolic health, emotional baggage, anything that made me sad or angry, triggers, having people in my life who I rather not be there be their family or friends, not being happy at work, not wanting to work for anyone, hating the ‘games people play’…. the list goes and went on.
Year after year I was stuck in a cycle of losing weight and putting it on and losing weight again. It is only when I was honest enough to look at all the factors affecting my weight or that made me regress or got in the way of change that I decided to take a 360o look at my life and make those changes … de-clutter holistically.
I reflected on and identified the negative thoughts and behaviors that were holding me back and found some positive affirmations to put in their place:
‘Excuses don’t burn calories’
This one speaks for itself – if excuses was a sport I would be a champion and a size 8!
‘Change your thoughts and you change your world’ – Norman Vincent Peale
By having a low or negative perception of ‘self’, your world, your challenges, your opportunities be it conscious or unconscious could be magnified to become your biggest hurdles. I have seen this a lot where without even trying people say ‘I can’t do it’ or ‘it is impossible’. Emotional attachments to ideas and objects can hold us back and stop us from even trying – I too did this. To combat this I had to change my thoughts for my world to change or at least start – thinking positively has made me feel an live positively and has mad a positive difference to my life – change my thoughts changed my world!
‘Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass but learning to dance in the rain’
I had to embrace and appreciate everything I had in my life and everything about myself. I had to give myself permission to let go and to be – now I dance in the rain
‘I’m not weird, I’m a limited edition’
I love the fact that I am not the same as other people I have embraced my idiosyncrasies I realise I don’t always conform to the expectations of individuals or society. In realising this I have designed exercise and a lifestyle that will keep me happy, healthy, fun filled and focused I am not the weird one … think about it
‘Slow progress is better than no progress’
I had to realise the every step in the right direction was a great thing. I may not feel or see the benefits immediately but I knew I would feel and see them eventually. Knowing it was good for me was enough
‘Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try’
I just had to make that change and I did – my life is abundant
‘Fitness is not about being better than someone else, it’s about being better than you used to be’
Understanding what fitness means to you is key. I am not focused on others I am focused on self improvement and change. My goals will change as I get fitter but currently I am not training to be an Olympian I am training to create a lifestyle so I am be a fitter healthier person than I used to be – period!
‘Believe you can and you’re halfway there’ – Theodore Roosevelt
This is an emotional one for me I spent a lot of time believing that I could not so I to dig down real deep past the grit and the pain and the hurt and the words and the noise and the the excuses and make that change
Sell your crap build your dream do what you love
I stumbled across this on the internet and I can’t believe how true this is. De-cluttering is vital to change be it your life or home – getting rid of all those memories and vibes and emotions caught up in objects reminding me of I time I don’t want to go back to or some of the people in your life, those memories on your bedroom wall or the objects in the room, music – linked to loss and sadness, food – the processed nutrition-less stock of food in your cupboards and fridge, clothes, books, papers, old university essays, photographs … this list goes on. I don’t encourage throwing away the things that mean something to you but there are so many god charity shops or someone may be able to use or love them, there is ebay – make some money you can always keep a few things and make a memory box. Essentially I probably hold on to things for emotional reasons not practical, which for me I need to change get rid of the decay – de-clutter, de-stress doing this has made it possible for my mind and emotions to be free to focus on me.
‘Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace’ – Dalai Lama
In the past I have been so distressed by the comments people have made about my weight. I could not move past it the words and jeers would ring in my head like a recurring nightmare. I spoke to a friend a Life Coach Diane Corriette who told me not to give people the power to make me feel that way – I am only feeling that way because I am letting them that is giving the permission to make me feel that way. Well I did not agree as I did not either consciously or unconsciously want to feel so awful so ‘letting them’ was difficult for me to fathom. It took a long time a lot of reflection a lot of changing fundamental habits and responses to be able to cope with negative comments or actions I have come far fundamental to this was not giving people the power to destroy my inner light or my peace.
If you’re tired of starting over, stop giving up’
The diet industry does not make money from success it makes money from your ‘failures’ or each time you stop and start so the worse you do and the more times you return the better off they are. Keep going don’t give up, eat REAL FOOD then you won’t have to stop and start change it up there are thousands of healthy meals thousands of ways to keep fit – this time I will change or refresh what I do – I won’t give up
‘Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs’ – Farrah Gray
This is a poignant mantra it helped me to refocus on my healing my body and growing my business. I’ve been building dreams for years sadly not my own until now!
‘It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop’ – Confucius
Now I have started I am not going to stop!